Etiquette with invited guests?

[SOX]

There is no way to make this story a short one so I will not tell the long story. So I will just vent a bit...

I invited a friend and his girlfriend our on the boat and seems to the girlfriend I also invited her DOG . Now for the record I have two dogs and love them both. We took one out on the boat and it was scared and shed all over the boat (never taking that boat out with us again) and the other is on ly 4 pounds and would get airborn above 50 mph. We never have taken our dogs with us again. So I talked with my wife and we are going to gently suggest that the first run be without the dog.

The problem is she is one of those people that thinks the dog is her child I don't want to offend her. But at the same time isn't that a bit rude to assume the dog is welcome?

Thanks for letting me vent, I am really getting tired of this girl and her dogs, but I want to see my friend happy so I don't want to lose my cool on her over her dogs.

 

[Jetmate]

I agree with you. I don't think I would have let the dog go the first time. I've come to the point in my life where I'm not going to be pushed into something I don't want to do. I have also become good at being on the spot creative to let people know what's on my mind in a way that doesn't hurt their feelings.

I would just tell her in a nice way that you have made a new rule that dogs are not allowed on the boat. Tell her it's for the dogs safety, that one of your dogs got disoriented from being out to long and almost jumped off the boat. And if something happened to her dog you would never forgive yourself. Stick to your new rule even if she insists. It's your boat, so tell her you are responsible for the well being of all the passengers and that's why you won't do it!

 

[TheNerd]

Easiest way around the dog is not to invite the owners. It is rare that we invite anyone out on our boat. We normally just meet up with people on boats, so when we are ready we can leave.

Of the two times we took a guest out with us, the first time she didnt hold on when I told here and it was my fault she bounced around in the seat. The second time, the same guest wanted to go home before I was ready and complained the entire rest of the day.

Solution, no more guests.

 

[sim]

Sounds like the cute little doggie and it's owner both need swimming lessons. I think Overtons is running a special on gangplanks.

 

[Jetmate]

Think I saw that special. Might be a good idea.

 

[illMATTic]

Its just easier in my opinion to not invite anybody UNLESS I know they have been on boats many times. Most people who have never been out for a full day on the water do not have the fun we have.

But back to your problem. I would have told them to leave the dog at home. BUT its probably one of those damn dogs that tears up the place when its all alone.

 

[JimK]

When discussing or inviting friends, don't make it about the dogs or any particular situation - just say that experience shows some things just don't go with boating: glass bottles, dogs, chocolate, oreos, cheetoos .... They will understand the reasons for the other no-nos and realize you have a reason for the no dogs.
It is best said at the time of the invitation. In this case you can apologize that it wasn't said before the previous trip.

 

[merc245]

I would of just started laughing and saying, You got to ------ kidding me.But I properly put up with it for the day.But she would've of known it was her or the dogs last trip on the boat.

I had a buddy show up for a boat ride in cowboy boots and jeans once.OK we were going over to canada to a bar.But it was a boating bar on the water!

 

[bigredinohio]

They will get over it if they don't like the no dogs in boat rule. I wouldn't want ripped cushions, dog hair everywhere that's a pain to sweep and not to mention the other friends who are allergic to dog hair that ride in the boat.

 

[ndaniels]

Well in this situation, I'd put it all on your friend... I'd tell him the dogs not coming along and let him deal with it however he has to- its his girlfriend, let him tell her


I'd also mention to him that any chick that treats her dog like a person is gonna be a PIA... my .02

 

[Mr. Buss]

Maybe a pic of the the girlfriend in "boating" apparel will help us make a decision..

 

[SCT]

Russ, I was thinking the same thing......

 

[hotdaddy27]

I am usually pretty good at being a dic so the following statement would have been my reaction.

Me:Do you see my dog(s) on the boat???

Response: No.

Me: Exactly! Call me when you get back to the dock after dropping your dog off at home. See ya.


Was she going to be around when the dogs nails scratched the vinyl seats???...NOPE!

My boat means too much to me.

In the end it is your boat and your $$$.

HD

 

[SOX]

Maybe a pic of the the girlfriend in "boating" apparel will help us make a decision..

no comment

 

[SOX]

I am a pretty easy going guy but a dog at the barn my wife kept our horses at scratched my new truck once... I never returned to that barn. I could only imagine how I would react if the dog damaged the boat

 

[SOX]

Well in this situation, I'd put it all on your friend... I'd tell him the dogs not coming along and let him deal with it however he has to- its his girlfriend, let him tell her


I'd also mention to him that any chick that treats her dog like a person is gonna be a PIA... my .02

He is well aware of how much time I put into keeping my stuff clean adn in good shape. I am really surprised he didn't speak up. I will put it on him to break the news to her. If she does not like it then she can stay home. It is my stress reliever adn I want it to stay that way. Thanks for all the input guys!

 

[ross]

the previous owner of my boat had a yellow lab....always on the boat.....yellow lab+black carpet=bad news! 3 years later i am still trying to get the dog hair up NO DOGS ON MY BOAT! NO WAY NO HOW

 

[ssv1761982]

I agree

Mention it to your buddy, let him tell her.

Years ago I took a good friend out fishing in my almost new boat. We had been out before and he knew I was 'picky'. He brought huge sandwiches and fresh tomatoes. After seeing him slop food the first couple of bites, I let him no in no uncertain terms what I thought of his messy food. He was a lil upset but we still got out fishing and there were no more messy sandwiches.

 

[2010crewmax]

Well in this situation, I'd put it all on your friend... I'd tell him the dogs not coming along and let him deal with it however he has to- its his girlfriend, let him tell her


I'd also mention to him that any chick that treats her dog like a person is gonna be a PIA... my .02

I agree with ndaniels Keep the piece between you and your buddy but lay it out on him. It is his girl and her dog and shouldnt have to be your problem...

 

[happy]

I have dogs, and have all my life, they have been fishing, swimming, ride in the car, go here, go there, ect. All of my dogs have been invited on others boats and from time to time have wound up missing from the "watering hole", or dognapped as it has been called. I'd never take my dogs anywhere they were not "asked" to go, or the owner of the boat didn't know them. I have dobermans, yes they swim, and have been trained to board "careful" but that doesn't mean their paws won't puncture material, leave scratches climbing a ladder, they do and taking them along takes more effort and supervision, even at that, at times, they may create an unsafe condition.
If a owner of a boat invites a buddy and a signify other doesn't mean the four pawed furry friends geta go to. Simply say people only.
PS.
To get pet hair out of the carpet.. it must be dry!!!!! sprinkle with baking soda and vaccume, this will get most of the hair up, then a light spray with cling free or static removal type stuff, then vaccume again..